Wedding rings – Dealing with Status Anxiety

Buying and exchanging wedding rings should be a joyful occasion. But it can be easy to be consumed by the phenomenon dubbed ‘status anxiety’ when you’re shopping for wedding rings. Marriage has throughout history been associated with social status - royalty, politicians and the fabulously wealthy - would often choose a partner based on their social ranking. The notion of a dowry for example is still a major preoccupation in some cultures, and in Britain, Jane Austen’s novels remind us of the battle between the heart and the purse strings.

Wedding rings and enduring vows

Status anxiety has been defined by philosopher and author Alain de Botton as: “A worry, so pernicious as to be capable of ruining extended stretches of our lives, that we are in danger of failing to conform to the ideals of success as laid down by our society… a worry that we are currently occupying too modest a rung or are about to fall to a lower one.” It’s hard not to get wrapped up by a society that defines success in terms of wealth or financial security. Even if you want to exchange wedding rings with a soul mate, if your parents disapprove or your friend’s don’t think your partner is good enough, it can cause upset and conflict.

The secret to a happy marriage

When it comes to exchanging wedding rings, the best way to ensure your marriage will be a happy one is to believe in the core values behind the union, which are not always monetary. And nobody wants to begin with lofty ideals and romance when they exchange their wedding rings, only to end up being envious of the neighbour’s better-kept lawn or superior car. As de Botton maps out in his book, couples afflicted with status anxiety can end up deeply unhappy. The anxieties surrounding the pressures to climb the social ladder can be massive. When it comes to buying wedding rings, buy wedding rings that are reflective of your love and commitment, rather than of an ugly snobbery. Status is still important to our self esteem - it’s been proven that the people in those countries that feature more equality and social cohesion, such as Scandinavia, live a healthier and longer life because they feel socially valued. But in Britain, the class system is still felt - when it comes to exchanging wedding rings, equality and cohesion should be qualities at the top of your wedding list.

Buy your wedding ring from the Jewellery Company

The Jewellery Company has a wide range of wedding rings to suit all tastes and budgets. From plain gold bands to contemporary diamond rings, you can find your perfect wedding rings and order online.

Set in tasteful ring boxes and with free UK delivery, The Jewellery Company is the perfect place to find wedding rings for your big day. For more information, browse our website, or call us on 0800 023 2283.